While I haven’t been quite as diligent as I’d like with keeping my blog, my Bold Goals for the year have remained front and center in my life. Even with COVID-19 forcing the year to grind to a halt, I’ve been lucky enough to be able to keep plugging along. With it being almost June, I thought I’d do a little check-in to let you guys know what I’ve been up to, and remind myself just how much there is still to accomplish.
Here are the basics that I laid out in my Bold Goals 2020 post back in January:
- Work on becoming a better communicator. I’ve been in therapy for a few months now, and it is definitely helping me find a way to get my inner thoughts out into the open. It’s been an invaluable tool, and my therapist has helped me navigate some of my communication rough spots. Of course, my partner has also been doing an excellent job of asking me the right questions and helping me feel comfortable with telling him how I feel. I’m going to keep working on this, because it’s still really hard to trust and be open about what I need.
- Volunteer. That’s not really on the table right now, but I’ll revisit once it’s safe to leave the house again.
- Nurture my relationship. Man, if there’s anything that I’ve had ample time to do in the last two months, it’s spend time with my partner! We still have two separate apartments, but have spent a great deal of time together since I was furloughed. His business has actually been booming, and he’s being run ragged, so I’ve used my spare time to step up and take care of various life things that he’s not able to get to. We’re a good team (though I miss having an office job, and something to talk about other than loading the dishwasher and walking the dogs).
- Dance! I was just wrapping up the spring semester of NOLA Chorus Girls when the pandemic hit and we were quarantined, and we never got to perform the last routine. I’m glad that I got the chance to dance in the Krewe of Freret in my sparkly red dress. That was a great day. The group has offered two online offerings for people who want to be chorus girls from home, but I’m honestly not that interested right now. I’d still like to try flamenco or hip hop, but it will have to be later in the year. There’s too much on my plate right now.
- Make two new friends. One thing that’s happened over the course of the pandemic is that my two old work colleagues and I have been keeping up via chat, which has been really nice. I missed them so much when I transfered to my new hotel, so it was just good for my heart when we started connecting in the aftermath of our work closures. Another thing that I’m super grateful for is Zoom! I’ve had a couple of awesome group video chats with my group of friends who live in Chicago/St. Louis, and have been chatting regularly with my besties from college and one of my besties from the Camino Frances. I’ve also been taking socially distant walks in the park with my friend who lives in the next neighborhood over, and have connected twice with a friend of a friend’s partner, and have really loved chatting with him both times. I feel like he could be an actual new friend. There’s also a woman on Instagram that I totally have a lady crush on, and would love to chat with more. I feel like we could totally be friends one day.
- Go on at least five camping trips. Well, this did not go as planned, but it’s OK. We really did try. We went camping at the end of February, and both came down with the flu on the second day and had to cut the trip short. We had another two camping trips planned over this last two months, but with state parks closed, we’ve just stayed home. I’m bummed, but I did go ahead and take advantage of a deal with Wildland Trekking. We’re booked to go on a backpacking trip in California in September.
- Sew three projects. I’ve sewn one full project so far, and it was pretty awesome. I’m going to post something separately on this, but I restored an Indonesian stick puppet, and sewed him a new outfit that I tried to keep respectful of his original clothing (which had dry rotted).
- Learn to do bead embroidery. Still working on it! For the project mentioned above, I embroidered a floral design in beads on the back of the puppet’s vest. I’m also still working on a project for my best friend, which shall remain secret for now.
- Read 52 books. Totally blowing this one, tbh. You’d think I’d have been spending the last two months just devouring shitty paperbacks, but I haven’t had the attention span for it. Instead, I’ve been diving into podcasts, and have discovered three that I really like: “Spooked,” “Snap Judgement,” and “The Black Tapes.”
- Pay off my debts. It’s still going to be a little while before my Upstart loan gets paid off, but I’m so much closer to getting my other two credit cards paid off than I was at the beginning of the year. If all goes well, I should be nearly debt-free by the end of the summer!
- Buy a vehicle. My partner and I were talking about this, and since he has to buy a new truck, he wants me to take his old one. This is speculation at this point, but is feeling pretty certain because…
- Make a home. I’m planning on moving in with my boyfriend in August. He’s been trying to buy a new house in New Orleans, and move out of his house in the suburbs, but with COVID-19 and some other legal issues with the sale property, that purchase is on hold. We’d talked about moving in together at the new house, and he was really upset about not being able to move in together once the sale fell through. So we talked about it, and decided to just make the leap to live together at his existing house. I’m excited to help him make it more of a home than it has been for him over the last couple of years.
- Learn something new every month. I’ve learned so much! I really should have been keeping track of this a little better, but in this month alone, I’m studying proofreading, I learned how to use an orbital sander, and I learned how to paint furniture! Last month I learned how to clean out gutters, how to prime crown molding, and how to make cheese (more to come on this – my first two attempts were underwhelming).
- Publish the Camino memoir. Still haven’t written a damn thing, but I did write a short non-fiction piece and submit it for publication a couple of days ago, so I’m slowly getting back in the groove. I want to reach out to a guy I met on the Camino to see what he’d charge me to illustrate the book.
- Get two tattoos. One down, one to go! In March, just a few days before I was furloughed at work and the city was quarantined, I got a big tattoo of my dad’s upholstery shears on my arm in a 1:1 scale. They’re so large that they take up my entire upper arm from shoulder to elbow. People keep asking why I got a giant pair of scissors on my arm, and I have to keep explaining that they’re the actual size; it’s kind of cool. Everyone’s expression when I say that is like WHOA.
I feel like I’m doing OK for being midway through the year. Right now I’m working on creating a new passion-project blog that I’m hoping to monetize, I’m taking an online course in proofreading that I hope will lead to a freelance job, and I’m taking a course in intuition that I hope will help me build my skills as a medium. I’m also helping one of my college besties out with marketing her business, and attempting to get my sleep schedule figured out so that I can one day not be a vampire. We’ll see about that one.
How have you been doing during this mess? Are you quarantined? Going back to work? Never left work? Working from home? When you look at the last two months, do you feel like you’ve been able to achieve the things you need to make your life better, or was it just a big time-suck? (Or something in between?) I’d love to know. No one comments on this blog, you know. If you did, it would be really cool.